My mother’s thought

My mother's dog " Mee "

My mother lives in Tokyo where it takes two hours from my house.
She, sixty two years old, lives by herself with a dog.

When the massive earthquake occured, she went out to renew her driver license although she didn’t drive at all.
She couldn’t ride on a train. So she had to walk home for an hour.

I was worried about her as a massive earthquake might occur again.

So I called her

I ” Would you live with us for a week. ”
She ” No. I wouldn’t ”
I ” Why? ”
She ” My friends live in my neighborhood. I like my job.I don’t want to leave my good ol’ apartment.”
I “However, if the earthquake occurrs again , can you do anything by yourself ? ”
She ” What must be, must be. ”
I ” …..”

I heard that not only my mother but also the parents of others didn’t want to live with their children’s families more than before.
Many grandparents used to live with their grandchildren.

Recently, grandparents seem to value their own living the best.
Most of them are healthy and have energy.

On the other hand I heard that my mother bought many food and batteries not for herself but also for my sister, my brother and I.
She is treating us like children no matter how old we get.
We are sure that we are able to care for ourselves with a few exceptions.
For example sometimes I have to ask her to take care of our children while we feel regretful for her.
Of course we will help her as she grows older.

We have mutual dependence on each other although we live far apart.

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I live in Kawagoe-city Saitama-prefecture Japan. There are many traditional warehouses in Kawagoe. So many Japanese and the people from overseas come to sightseeing.

18 thoughts on “My mother’s thought”

  1. LOL. The other day we talked about the cultural differences regarding privacy in the house, but as far as mothers are concerned, this is universal: mothers never will be able to see their children as adults. My mom still thinks I’m 5 or 6 and regularly explain how to do certain things that I’ve learned… well, when I was about 5 or 6…

  2. It’s thoughtful when your dearest mother said: “What must be, must be!”. ๐Ÿ™‚
    I have to learn her attitude and maybe my life will have less and less worries.

      1. Oh , I didn’t know “Tonari no Yamadaโ€. I searched it.
        But I know โ€œQue sera seraโ€. I often heard the word said by famous people.

  3. I love this conversation and your mother’s do is so cute. I don’t blame her insisting on here independence. I would too. ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. I think the conversations would be similar with our two daughters, if there had been a catastrophe like yours in Japan. One family in Berlin, one in Munich, one near Cologne: always 600 kilometers distance – but connected with phone and e-mail to support our moods and avoid depression …

  5. Good mothers are the same all over the world! They never stop worrying about their children–even when their children are worrying about them! I so glad your Mom is O.k., she sounds like a real trooper.

  6. ็งใŸใกใ‚‚้ ใใซใ„ใ‚‹ๅฎถๆ—ใ‚’ๆกˆใ˜ใฆใฏใ„ใพใ™ใŒใ€ใ„ใคใ‚‚ใฏ็š†ใŒๅ…ƒๆฐ—ใงใ‚ใ‚Œใฐๅฎ‰ๅฟƒใชใ‚“ใงใ™ใ‚ˆใญใ€‚
    ใŸใ ไปŠใฎ้–ขๆฑใงใ€ใŠใฒใจใ‚Šใงๆšฎใ‚‰ใ•ใ‚Œใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใฎใŒใ”ๅฟƒ้…ใชใŠๆฐ—ๆŒใกใ‚ˆใใ‚ใ‹ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
    ็ง้”ไธ‰ไบบๆ ธๅฎถๆ—ใ‚‚ใ€ไธ‡ใŒไธ€ใพใŸๅคงใใชๅœฐ้œ‡ใŒใใŸใใฎๆ™‚ใ€ๅฎถๆ—ใŒใใ‚Œใžใ‚Œไฝ•ๅ‡ฆใซใ„ใ‚‹ใ‹ใฏ
    ๅ…จใไบˆๆƒณใŒใงใใšใ€ใใ‚Œใ‚’่€ƒใˆใ‚‹ใจไธๅฎ‰ใงใ™ใ€‚ใ€€ใŠๆฏๆง˜ใ‚‚ใ€ใŸใ ใŸใ ็š†ใฎ็„กไบ‹ใ‚’็ฅˆใฃใฆๅฏๆ„›ใ„ใ‚ใ‚“ใ“ใจไธ€็ท’ใซใŒใ‚“ใฐใฃใฆใŠใ‚‰ใ‚Œใ‚‹ไบ‹ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚ใ€€ๆฎ‹ๅฟตใชไบ‹ใซไปŠๅ›žใฎๅœฐ้œ‡ใฏใ€็งใŸใกใฎๅฟƒใซๅคงใใชๅ‚ทใ‚’ๆฎ‹ใ—ใฆใ—ใพใ„ใพใ—ใŸใญใ€‚ๆ—ฉใใ‹ใ•ใถใŸใŒใงใใฆใ†ใฃใ™ใ‚‰ใจๆถˆใˆใฆใ„ใใ“ใจใ‚’็ฅˆใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚

    1. ใŠใฃใ—ใ‚ƒใ‚‰ใ‚Œใ‚‹ใจใŠใ‚Šใงใ™ใญใ€‚ๆ—ฉใใ€ใฟใชใ•ใ‚“ใฎๅ‚ทใŒใ„ใˆใ‚‹ใจใ„ใ„ใงใ™ใญใ€
      ้ƒฝๅ†…ใฎไธ€้ƒจใงใฏใ€ๅœ้›ปใ‚‚ไปŠใฎใจใ“ใ‚ใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใฎใงใ€ใใ†ใ„ใ†ๆ„ๅ‘ณใ ใ‘ใงใฏ้ƒฝๅ†…ใฎใปใ†ใŒใ‚ˆใ„ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚ใพใŸใ€ๆ…ฃใ‚Œ่ฆชใ—ใ‚“ใ ๅฎถใ‚’้›ขใ‚Œใ‚‹ใฎใฏใชใ‹ใชใ‹ๅคงๅค‰ใ‚‰ใ—ใ„ใงใ™ใ€‚

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